rosie’s face

Thanks to everyone who wrote in with suggestions for what makes a good team. I am sure my talks will go fine, now that my brain is percolating with your ideas. One thing no one mentioned was how important knowing each other on a team is. This is important in all successful relationships. To know someone well, both parties need to be vulnerable: the knower and the knowee (not a real word, I “know”). I am currently in a quandary trying to get to know someone in the team of my family. I am trying to figure my middle daughter out, whom I jokingly refer to as “Silent Bob,” What is she thinking?

rosie's face

Her face is so open but she plays everything else close to the vest. Rosie is the poem I still can’t understand, but I will read and re-read her until I do.

Poet, Carl Sandburg writes:

“Once a little girl showed to a friend a poem she had written: ‘Why didn’t you make it longer?’ asked the friend. ‘I could have,’ she answered, ‘but then it wouldn’t have been a poem.’ She meant she left something in the air for the reader of the poem to linger over, as any of us do over a rose or a sunset or a face.”

3 thoughts on “rosie’s face

  1. Tori

    Sometimes it’s the silent moments and subtle actions that really tell what is going on in a person. Other times there are things felt by the person and thus inherent and not always “voiceable.” What a lovely gift a quiet, contemplative child can be. and she’s beautiful too. I love the freckles and red hair :)

  2. Hieronymous

    Easy to say, tough to implement, BUT: in my Army days, relationships were built on shared experience, that is, I didn’t “know” my mates in the sense of who their wives were or what their favorite beer was or any of that; we learned each other through experience.

    Go camping with your daughter. Or running. Or rappelling! Some difficult, perhaps scary endeavor the fruits of which you can share without words. Learn how each acts under stress and duress.

    Or ask her to teach you something, or involve her in something seen up to that point as exclusively your territory.

    I am getting into wine these days. My eldest (under 10) BEGS–BEGS I tell you–to read aloud the wine notes in order to earn a mere sip of Papa’s wine, and then see him write down HER thoughts into the notes section of his log…

    I am saving skydiving and motorcycling for when she is REALLY reticent…

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *